Aha I thought, simples, just use the Windows Messenger Service that uses Mailslots. Dead easy to code, job done....
Nope.
Microsoft in their infinite wisdom removed this from Vista (and presumably Win 7). Buggar. This is not just annoying, it's MS annoying...
Much googling later I've found a free (but you should donate) download for Vista that allows it to receive mailslot (net send) messages.
http://www.winsentmessenger.com/